while reading a blog of someone i look up to, i saw a post which asked a question "love then marriage or marriage then love?" i have never been able to find a way to connect both. i always say that there can be compatibility among the two people living together as a husband and a wife. i also feel that many a times this compatibility is misdiagnosed as love. in my opinion, love is a highly over-rated emotion. if people let go of the hunt and the eternal wait for this, their lives can be a lot more comfortable. for in the end, it's the contentment that matters, right?
most of the people i know who are in a relationship, are highly insecure about their "bitter"-halves. there's jealousy, doubts and funnily enough they are always on the look out for someone else, someone better. so is this love so weak that it is not able to tower above it all? is it so difficult to trust someone and put some faith in people, whom by the way, you profess, that you have given your heart to? still waiting for the answers...
Well! I like your perspective, but generalising "the hunt" would be wrong coz it may be the case with some people but, I guess, not with the most. But yes that is for sure, that very few people are actually contented that yes this is the person to be looked for. . But I think its not about settling with what you get but yes ample blind faith in the person you love is something not suggested, but then if ample blind faith is not there, is it love ?? So, thats what happens in, as you said, "most people" cases.. So, if at all they are looking for someone better instead of becoming better and making the other person better, its definitely not love but indeed a relationship of mutual understanding which you stated as "compatibility misdiagnosed as love"...
ReplyDeleteWell, I think its better to live your life as it comes across you instead of searching or hunting for many things such as love, happiness, peace etc etc etc. . In such cases hunt goes on and on and on and life ends. . We get these things only when we stop looking for them. . Ironical, but I guess, true to a good extent. .
dont u think that living life as it comes along is being content with what one has? this question of "love" has been a mystical subject since eons and i believe that it is destined to be so. thats why people die, kill, cry, etc. for it
ReplyDeleteI agree with "die, kill, cry etc."
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